No.29950
We met 2 weeks ago. And I started to like him the first time I heard his voice when we did voice chat. I’m teaching him Japanese because he has always wanted to learn Japanese and to travel here. So we decided to do video call every day at 9:30pm my time to have lessons, which is his morning. ( he works in the afternoon.) As I get to know him more, I like him more. Because despite his autism, he is more positive and optimistic than many normal person. And I admire him for that. I told him my feelings for him the other day. And he said he also liked me. So we became bf and gf. And he said he was serious about this relationship when I asked him.
But the thing is that he never says good morning or good night to me, never texts me, never talks to me except when we do video calls, and never shares with me what’s happening around him, nothing. He is like an iceberg to me. Normal friends talk much more than we do.
He told me he has problems with socializing with people and that he had to take special classes on how to socialize and communicate with people when he were little. (But he is perfectly normal to me when we do video chats. )
I don’t know what he’s thinking. I don’t know if it’s his autism that makes him to treat me like this. I don’t know if he just realized that he doesn’t like me that much and regrets to be my bf, yet too embarrassed to tell me the truth, thus choosing to deliberately alienating me until I realize what’s going on by myself and leave him.
Below is what I sent him about my thoughts and I’m waiting for his answer. 【Hey, I think we should talk. 1. I don’t know why but you seem to talk much less than I thought except in video chats. Normal friends talk much more than we do.😂 I mean we are in a relationship now, right? Bf and gf are supposed to share moments of their lives. Like, what is happening around them, interesting or upsetting, good or bad , what they eat, read, or watch and all that. Those are very small and even unimportant daily stuff. But it is through those things that friends and lovers get to know more about and become closer to each other. I understand that you’re a very very busy person, so am I. So that’s why I told you I wanted our lessons to be 40mins-50mins at most per time and why I ask you for constructive criticisms to make them more effective, so that we can both save more time to do our own things. But daily sharing and saying good nights and good mornings every day won’t take too much time, right? 🙂 2. I don’t know if it’s your autism that makes you don’t know these things or what to do in a relationship. I don’t know if you also treat your best friends this way—not texting or sharing stuff with them. I really don’t know. If that’s the case, I can help.🙂 (You said you needed to take special classes on how to socialize with people on holidays when you were little.) 3. I don’t know if you just realized you simply don’t like me that much and regret to be with me yet feel too embarrassed to tell me, thus choosing to deliberately alienate me until I realize what’s going on on my own.( sorry if I offend you by saying this, but many guys and girls do so) If that’s the case, do feel free to tell me. I’m cool that that. 😂If this relationship doesn’t work out, it’s fine. Being friends with you also makes me happy. We can pretend nothing has happened and continue to help each with language learning.🙂 4. I really don’t know what you’re thinking. I feel confused. I don’t mean to make a fuss about it but I really need your answer. 】
What should I do? Should I break up with him?
TLDR: My autistic boyfriend of several days never texts me, says good morning/night to me, or shares anything with me. But we talk a lot when we do video chats. I sent him what I think and I’m waiting for his answer. Should I break up with him?
No.29951
We met 2 weeks ago. And I started to like him the first time I heard his voice when we did voice chat. I’m teaching him Japanese because he has always wanted to learn Japanese and to travel here. So we decided to do video call every day at 9:30pm my time to have lessons, which is his morning. ( he works in the afternoon.) As I get to know him more, I like him more. Because despite his autism, he is more positive and optimistic than many normal person. And I admire him for that. I told him my feelings for him the other day. And he said he also liked me. So we became bf and gf. And he said he was serious about this relationship when I asked him.
But the thing is that he never says good morning or good night to me, never texts me, never talks to me except when we do video calls, and never shares with me what’s happening around him, nothing. He is like an iceberg to me. Normal friends talk much more than we do.
He told me he has problems with socializing with people and that he had to take special classes on how to socialize and communicate with people when he were little. (But he is perfectly normal to me when we do video chats. )
I don’t know what he’s thinking. I don’t know if it’s his autism that makes him to treat me like this. I don’t know if he just realized that he doesn’t like me that much and regrets to be my bf, yet too embarrassed to tell me the truth, thus choosing to deliberately alienating me until I realize what’s going on by myself and leave him.
Below is what I sent him about my thoughts and I’m waiting for his answer. 【Hey, I think we should talk. 1. I don’t know why but you seem to talk much less than I thought except in video chats. Normal friends talk much more than we do.😂 I mean we are in a relationship now, right? Bf and gf are supposed to share moments of their lives. Like, what is happening around them, interesting or upsetting, good or bad , what they eat, read, or watch and all that. Those are very small and even unimportant daily stuff. But it is through those things that friends and lovers get to know more about and become closer to each other. I understand that you’re a very very busy person, so am I. So that’s why I told you I wanted our lessons to be 40mins-50mins at most per time and why I ask you for constructive criticisms to make them more effective, so that we can both save more time to do our own things. But daily sharing and saying good nights and good mornings every day won’t take too much time, right? 🙂 2. I don’t know if it’s your autism that makes you don’t know these things or what to do in a relationship. I don’t know if you also treat your best friends this way—not texting or sharing stuff with them. I really don’t know. If that’s the case, I can help.🙂 (You said you needed to take special classes on how to socialize with people on holidays when you were little.) 3. I don’t know if you just realized you simply don’t like me that much and regret to be with me yet feel too embarrassed to tell me, thus choosing to deliberately alienate me until I realize what’s going on on my own.( sorry if I offend you by saying this, but many guys and girls do so) If that’s the case, do feel free to tell me. I’m cool that that. 😂If this relationship doesn’t work out, it’s fine. Being friends with you also makes me happy. We can pretend nothing has happened and continue to help each with language learning.🙂 4. I really don’t know what you’re thinking. I feel confused. I don’t mean to make a fuss about it but I really need your answer. 】
What should I do? Should I break up with him?
TLDR: My autistic boyfriend of several days never texts me, says good morning/night to me, or shares anything with me. But we talk a lot when we do video chats. I sent him what I think and I’m waiting for his answer. Should I break up with him?
No.29952
did NOT read lol
No.29953
Anime Expo 2016, Day 3. My boyfriend and I were dressed in Umbreon and Glaceon-based lolita kimonos for a group cosplay (A disaster, but that's a different story.). Our weekend was already crazy enough. Shitty hotel, not a whole lot of exciting cosplays, stuff going missing, no one recognizing my costumes, but what always made up for the BS was the evening dance party. One of the panel rooms is cleared out and a dance floor, lights, and a DJ are brought in for con goers to just unwind and dance to their heart's content. This night was particularly interesting. Everything was going as usual. Boyfriend hyping up the circle, showing off his moves, watching other dancers dance, and just having fun. I can't dance for shit, but I enjoy the music, so I groove a little. (Move hips back and forth, move my body a little, literally nothing spectacular.) But I suppose this guy was enjoying my display of rhythmic wobbling. He was short. Like, shorter than me, and I'm pretty damn short. I could tell by his face and body structure however that he had to be about in his thirties. He was in an Akatsuki cloak from Naruto with another guy, but he wasn't as interested in him at that moment. He started dancing with me. No big deal, nothing inappropriate, just getting me to move a little more. He moves along to another part of the crowd, and I continue watching my boyfriend dance in the circle with his bouncy wig and frilly skirt. He was quite the spectacle, and a pretty damn convincing girl. I can see the Akatsuki guy doing his thing and dancing with other people when my boyfriend came up to me and said he was going to the bathroom. I stayed there with a couple of friends and, you guessed it, continued my wobbling dance. Then once again the Akatsuki guy came up to me, this time grabbing my arms and dancing with me. I decided to go with it and not fight against him. Again, he wasn't doing anything inappropriate like grabbing my waste or trying to touch me anywhere else. However, when he left, I felt really uncomfortable. My boyfriend came back and I held onto him like a shield. He must not have noticed because he didn't say anything to me about my behavior. The two of us got a little more into the music and started grinding on each other a little. The Akatsuki guy thought he struck gold at this point. Two chicks in short kimonos and pigtails grinding on each other? Jackpot. Sounds like something strait out of PornHub. So he makes his way over to us, thinking he's gonna get a little lucky with two little lolis. Now here's the thing. My boyfriend only a few inches taller than me, so in this dark, loud, chaotic room, he looks pretty cute in his skirt, wig and bows. He's also black, so his voice is kinda deep, and he had been shouting and partying so much that it destroyed his voice to the point where it was deeper and angrier than usual. So, when Akatsuki guy walks up to us pretty little ladies and asks seductively, "Is that yo girl?", my boyfriend leaned over and said "Yeah." in the deepest, scratchiest, angriest voice he could. Akatsuki guy ran out of there faster than anyone I'd ever seen. I had no idea what was going on since the music was so loud. My boyfriend told me about it later when we met up with a couple of friends outside. With all the chaos that happened this year, that memory really brought my stress down and made for a great story to tell friends.
No.29954
>be me
>21, f, enjoying life, finally learned to love my body
>meet ex (let's call him Alex) at a bar
>we hit it off great, make things official around a month later
>sex is pretty good, I couldn't complain
>3 months into the relationship he tells me he has a thing for futa
>I'm perfectly fine with it
>he gets me to talk about it while he gets off
>I was fine with that too, Is he's happy I should be happy right?
>started as an occasional thing but soon becomes an obsession
>talks about it often, in detail
>he barely touches me, talks about how hot I'd be with a cock
>things get worse and worse until he wants to have a threesome, just to try sucking a guy off.
>I refuse and goes off
>calls me a whore, says I don't love him enough
>I start crying, and he doesn't even touch me anymore, all he cares about if fictional girl cock
>he just looks at me in horror, then leaves.
He came back about a week later to grab his shit. It's been months, and I still feel like shit. Typing it out makes it seem stupid but it hurt me a lot.
No.29960
>>29954things that happened.mpae