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I just started dating this girl a couple weeks ago. She’s a really awesome girl. Our first date was supposed to be coffee and a walk downtown, but we wound up spending the whole weekend together. I’m really into her, it seems like she is really into me, too.

But I find some of her behavior a little strange and I’m not sure how I should handle it. After our 36 hiur long first date I asked her if I can start referring to her as my girlfriend, she got excited and said a very enthusiastic yes. So it was going pretty good.

Then the next day when I was back in my apartment she sent me a “good morning” message, and a picture she took in the mirror, along with a message asking “Is it okay if I wear this today?”

That seemed like an odd thing to ask a boyfriend, especially one of like 12 hours, but I assumed she meant it like a “Do I look okay?” Sort of way. I think she was wearing a tank-top and some shorts, so perfectly normal clothes for a college girl in a state that emulates the surface of the sun. I just told her she looked great, blah blah, and she said thanks and that was that.

A couple days after that she asked the same thing, basically wearing the same sort of thing. I told her again that I thought she looked great. She followed up by asking “So you’re okay with me wearing this?” I responded something like “Uh…..yeah?” And she answered “Just making sure!”.

That has continued like that ever since. Every day to every other day she asks if I’m “okay” with her wearing whatever she puts on in the morning.

I asked her about it the next time we were together after that. I basically told her that I definitely didn’t mind her sending pictures every morning, but I asked why she always asks if I’m “okay” with it. She said she just wants to make sure she isn’t going to upset me with whatever she puts on. I tried to reassure her that unless she’s planning on going to class topless or something I’m not going to be upset about what she wears and I figured that was that, but she continues to ask still.

It’s basically just become part of my morning routine to respond to her messages to say I’m fine with her going out like that. Ever since I talked to her that time I figured it only took a sec so what’s the harm in just giving “permission”, but the more I think about it, that just can’t be healthy, right?

And in the last week or two she has started asking about more things. Like “Hey is it ok if I go hang with my friend Steph tonight?” “Uh, yeah, why wouldn’t it be?” “Just making sure!” (This is a direct qoute from my text history). She tells me basically any time she is going somewhere other than home or class, and always asks if it is “okay”.

Like, the last LTR I had was fiercely independent, so this is uncharted territory for me. I don’t really mind her messaging me and I’m happy enough to give her “permission”, but I really don’t think this kind of thing is normal and it really just does not seem healthy to me.

Is there something I should do about this? Should I just continue saying “yes” every time she asks? I really dig this girl and she seems fine on most things, but asking permission from your boyfriend of a few weeks to do normal stuff just seems weird.

Advice?

Tl;dr: My new girlfriend is constantly asking my permission for the clothes she wears and to go wherever she happens to be going. I don’t think this is healthy. What can I do that is best for her?